The Story You Keep Telling Yourself (And Why It’s Holding You Back)

We all carry stories.

Some we’ve inherited.
Some we’ve shaped to survive.
And some we’ve told ourselves so many times, they’ve become a kind of identity.

But what if the very story that once protected you… is now the thing keeping you from healing?

At some point in the healing journey, a shift happens.

You’ve done the work. You’ve unpacked the trauma.
You’ve sat with the pain. You’ve journaled, meditated, processed.
But something still isn’t landing.

And often—it’s because a part of you is still attached to the identity of the wound.

“I’m the one who was betrayed.”
“I’m the one who needs to be fixed.”
“I’m the one who never got what they needed.”

These perspectives might be true.
But are they the whole truth?

Or are they distortions—crafted to make sense of your experience, but no longer aligned with who you’re becoming?

Ask yourself:

What’s the truth about this?
And what’s the distortion I’ve unknowingly accepted?
What am I getting out of staying in this story?
Why am I allowing this to be my perspective?
If I didn’t need to believe this story anymore… what else would I be open to examining, feeling, thinking, hearing, or seeing next?

This is where the internal shift begins.

Because healing isn’t just about clearing energy or rewriting beliefs.
It’s about making the conscious choice to rewrite your neural pathways—to create a new reality that isn’t driven by old wounds or inherited rules.

And when you do, everything starts to change.

Sometimes the most powerful transformation begins with a single thought:

“Something needs to change.”

Not in theory. But with real intent.

And in that moment, life tends to respond.
A challenge will show up. A new perspective. A truth you can’t unsee.

But you won’t recognise it if you’re still busy living in the waiting room of your past self.

If you stay inside the identity of the wound, you’ll stay trapped in cycles of drama, reactivity, and inner conflict—without realising it’s optional.

So ask the deeper questions:

Who am I without the need for validation?
Who am I without the projections and expectations placed on me?
Who am I when I stop performing my pain?

You get to unwind the layers of drama, trauma, and belief systems that were never yours to carry.

You get to stop selling your pain as your personality.
You get to opt out of emotional reactivity and drama cycles that leave you depleted.
You get to rewrite your neural pathways—from survival and self-protection to clarity, vitality, and trust.

And when that happens, the shifts ripple outwards:

Your nervous system settles.
Your health improves.
Your vision clears.
You become open to what’s actually here, not just what your old identity expected to find.

You’re not broken.
You’re not behind.
You’re not stuck.

You’re human.
And life is a series of choices.

If you’ve unconsciously attached to your trauma story, it’s not something to feel ashamed about.
It’s something to get curious about.

What if I didn’t need to keep identifying with the old wound?
What would it feel like to have my own back, no matter what?
What could shift if I stopped waiting for permission to change?

It takes courage to let go of who you’ve been.
It takes trust to challenge your beliefs.
And it takes clarity to realise that even healing can become a hiding place.

The truth?

You don’t need fixing.
You need presence.
You need truth.
You need to live—fully, freely, and without the story.

So ask yourself today:

If I didn’t need to believe that old story anymore…
What else would I be open to seeing, feeling, thinking, or becoming?