If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, “I can’t trust anyone,” or found yourself holding back because part of you doesn’t feel safe to let go, you’re not alone.

This is something I see often in my clinic and coaching space: the hesitation to trust again.
Not just other people, but life. Timing. Your own decisions. Your intuition. Those things will change.

This post is here to gently meet you in that space. We’ll explore:

• Why trust is foundational not just in relationships, but in healing and growth

• Whether trust is a choice or a feeling (and why both matter)

• What happens when mistrust shapes our lives in quiet ways

• How to begin nurturing trust again, especially within yourself

You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need to be open to the possibility that something else is available.                                             

Why Trust Is Important

Trust is a form of safety. And when we don’t feel safe emotionally, spiritually, or physically, we stop expanding.
We retreat. We tighten our grip on what's familiar, even when it doesn’t nourish us.

Without trust, everything becomes harder:

• You hesitate before making decisions

• You question your path, even when your heart knows it’s time

• You resist receiving help or support, even when it's right in front of you

• You stay in relationships, roles, or ways of being that drain you, because they’re predictable

• You don't fully allow healing to take place, as there is a skeptical part of you that does not believe it has worked, or that things could change 

But trust invites flow.
When you trust, you soften the need to control, and you create space for life to meet you halfway.

Is Trust a Choice or a Feeling?

This is a question I often hear: “Am I supposed to just choose trust?”

It’s not always that simple.

For some people, trust comes naturally in safe environments.
For others, especially those who’ve been hurt, betrayed, or conditioned to over-function, it’s something they have to grow into again. Not with force, but with care.

Here’s what I know to be true:

• Trust can be chosen as an intention, as a gentle willingness to see things differently.

• Trust can be felt in your body when it begins to relax and release the need to be constantly on guard.

• Trust can be re-learned with the right tools, space, and support.

There’s no single right way. What matters is that you permit yourself to explore trust again, on your terms.

What Happens When You Don’t Feel Safe to Trust

When trust has been interrupted, we unconsciously begin shaping our lives around protection.

And often, it looks like this:

• Staying in a job that no longer feels aligned, telling yourself, “This is just how it is.”

• Holding on to friendships or connections out of obligation, even when they don’t reflect who you are anymore

• Repeating patterns in your healing or spiritual work, trying tools, then abandoning them, not fully believing anything will change

• Blocking the support or intuitive nudges that could help, because you’re afraid to “get it wrong”

It’s not that you’re not trying. It’s that your nervous system is working overtime to keep you safe.
But safety and expansion can co-exist.
And trust is the quiet bridge between the two.

Why Letting Go Feels So Uncomfortable

There’s something no one tells you about personal growth:
Even when you want to change, it can feel destabilising.

Because when life delivers a new cycle, it often asks you to loosen your grip on the familiar before the new has fully arrived.

You might feel:

• Restless or unsettled, but unsure what to do next

• Anxious about losing control or not knowing what’s coming

• Afraid to believe in something better, just in case it doesn’t work out

That’s completely normal.

Letting go isn’t a failure. It’s a transition. And trust is what helps you stay grounded while that shift takes place.

How to Gently Begin Rebuilding Trust

There is no quick fix. But there is a pathway forward, and it begins with slowing down enough to hear what your inner self already knows.

Here’s where I invite clients to begin:

1. Name One Moment Where You Already Trusted Yourself

Maybe you said no when you wanted to.
Maybe you reached out when you were afraid to.
Maybe you simply rested, even when the world told you to keep going.

Acknowledge it. That’s your evidence.

2. Create a Safe Internal Space

Through grounding, breath, bodywork, or energy tools, begin reminding your body it’s safe to trust again.
Trust doesn’t land in a tense system. It needs softness to settle.

3. Let Go of Needing to Control Everything

Not in a careless way, but with the gentle reminder:
“I don’t have to force this. I can allow life to surprise me.”
When we grip outcomes too tightly, we unknowingly block better ones.

4. Trust Your Timing

If you're in a season of reflection or stillness, trust that.
If you feel the call to move or take action, trust that, too.
The more you listen to your rhythm, the stronger your inner trust becomes.

You don’t need to do this alone.

Whether you're learning to trust again in relationships, in your intuition, or simply in life itself—this is the work I hold space for, every day.

Inside my coaching sessions and the UNMASKED program, we clear the deeper patterns that keep you second-guessing yourself, and we gently rebuild the trust that lets you feel steady, clear, and in your authority.

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