vagus nerve

The Vagus Nerve – its role and treatment

  • The Vagus Nerve (VN) starts at the brain and is the longest cranial nerve in our body. 
  • It conveys sensory information about the state of the body’s organs to the Central Nervous System
  • The VN can be overactive or underactive
  • It is well documented that VN stimulation can assist in a multitude of illnesses, such as treatment-resistant depression and certain forms of epilepsy

The VN’s physical role in the body includes:

  • Keeping the larynx open for breathing, feeding the lungs and diaphragm
  • Slowing and regulating the heartbeat
  • Stimulating the flow of saliva, peristalsis and secretion, and releasing bile
  • Reducing inflammation
  • Sending messages to the brain to produce and release Oxytocin
  • Reducing seizures and the treatment of certain types of epilepsy
  • Increasing calm and reducing stress levels
  • Reducing blood pressure

Energetically, the VN:

  • Balances the nervous system, bringing coherence between the sympathetic, (fight/flight), and the parasympathetic, (relaxation) branches of the nervous system, giving more emphasis on the relaxation side
  • Brings coherence to the heart and brain, supporting higher states of awareness
  • Is responsible for our compassion, telepathy and empathy, and our intuition or “gut knowing”
  • Governs our interface with others and the world (how we connect to each other).

Natural ways to help the Vagus Nerve

Anything you can do to enhance relaxation and compassion is going to help, as well as:

  • Deep belly breathing 
  • Meditation
  • Exercise 
  • Reflexology 
  • Playing an instrument (the deep breathing and long exhales stimulate the VN)
  • Listening to music and relaxing (VN is part of the parasympathetic/relaxing side of nervous system).
  • Practicing yoga stimulates the VN without even focusing on it directly

I think I can safely say we have all experienced some sort of toxicity in a relationship , whether it be with a family member, ex-boyfriend, friends or a work colleague. 

While many are born into a loving, caring, supporting family, from my many years in the clinic, this is far from the truth for many clients. This can be extremely painful when we have experienced first hand the exile, trauma or abandonment from our family members. 

Our childhoods and relationships with our family hold the deepest pain and suffering, feelings of abandonment  not being lovable,  good enough, our misaligned identity of ourselves or feeling like a misfit are embodied and unconsciously expressed throughout other areas of our lives going forward. 

If you are carrying pain from your family, then it is really important foremost you work on releasing your trauma, work through forgiveness and release any out dated beliefs and behaviours so you don’t attract the wrong people and relationships into your life going forward.

Conflicts in relationships arise when there is an imbalance between your expectations and the actually reality that is occurring. To experience balanced relationships, we need to stop putting expectations on how we believe the relationship and person should be. This means accepting the person and the relationship for what it is, not what we think it should be. 

Often we are so caught up in our own ‘expectation’ that we don’t take the time to see through the lens of the other person. Sad but true, the pivotal turning point ‘people can only give you what they can give you,’ they are also projecting onto you their view points, behaviours, beliefs from their own up bringing, traumas and life situations. Yes a hard reality to face, however this is an imperative factor in healing the cycle of toxic relationships. 

Have The Courage to Look

We often unconsciously shape and reflect what we believe to be true in our view of people and the relationship. We filter out anything that suggests otherwise. Often you have spent years trying to hide and run away from the reality, evidence and truth of the situation.

Deconstruct the person or relationship dynamics you have an issue with, what is at the core level?

  • Think about what is your agenda? What do you really want from this relationship?
  • Be willing to drop the expectations and projections, don’t make it about you, drop the drama
  • Drop the need for validation and acceptance you are yearning for, make peace with this

Honouring Yourself

It is time to deconstruct any negative behaviours and beliefs through self enquiry. You may want to sit and reflect on the below or journal what comes up.

  • What relationships have I been tolerating? 
  • With whom have I been wearing masks and avoiding my true self to be seen?
  • How is this a mirror about how I feel about myself ?
  • What am I avoiding seeing? 
  • What am I refusing to see about this situation now? 
  • Whats the truth and whats the distortion around this relationship?” 

You can learn more and clear past toxic relationships to create harmony in your relationships in our up coming courses. Sign up on our home page to receive first discounted access for VIPs only.

People often become frustrated because they are wanting something to change, to create a new reality and its not happening. You think you’re doing everything right, but your remaining stuck. Let’s look at how you can gain clarity and momentum to move forward.

Stop Resisting
The more we resist the ebbs and flows of change the harder it gets! Stop holding yourself back. Sit with what am I resisting? Is it change? Being successful? Being seen?

You have a deep inner knowing with what to do, and you have an inner guidance system to make it happen. To create your reality you need to have awareness and decide what you want. The more awareness we have, the less power our fear and ego mind can have on us. 

Facing the Fears
If you create out of fear, you don’t believe in your own abilities, you are reacting from the fear. If you are creating out of joy you are moving forward. Doing what your heart tells you will bring you joy. Questions to ask yourself – If I wasn’t afraid what would I be doing? What’s my state of readiness for this change? Am I ready to let go? Be ready to face your fears head on.

Self Reflection
Stillness is required for deeper self reflection. Questions to ask yourself – What do I really want?  What will this change bring to my life? What lights me up? Where am I compromising myself? What would my life be like if joy was my priority?

Do the internal work
You are your greatest teacher, you need to become clear and in alignment. Changing your energy will transform the undesirable situation and being in alignment the possibilities are limitless. Look at your limiting beliefs, patterning, fears , what do you need to heal to allow you to move forward?

Priorities and Non-Negotiable
Write down on a piece of paper two columns, my priories and my non negotiables. Now write down under priorities all the things that are important to you and under priorities list all the things you won’t compromise on. This will help you become clearer and put boundaries into place. 

Work with the intention – I choose and intend to come into divine alignment with (stating the change you are wanting) thank you it’s done it’s done it’s done. And the new belief – I am open to change. If you have however low expectations and high intentions you’re going to get the results of your low expectations. Energy will go to the most powerful thought you have. Questions to look at -What expectations do I have about myself? Look what could preventing your intention from being fulfilled. 

Take Action
When you know what you want it drives you to take action, it is then you can put boundaries in place. Work with the idea how many possibilities are there to help make this change? Where am I going to put my energy into? Take action and feel the fear afterwards!

See that you already have it
Focus on the outcome and see that you already have it. When you also focus on the life experience you want to have, this allows you to receive it. Really sit with the feeling of having your desires here and now. Wayne Dwyer quotes – The answer to how is yes, you may never know exactly how you’re going to accomplish, but by saying yes to life and all that calls you, the how will take care of itself.

Allow others to support you, take all the burden off your shoulders.

Let It Go
Don’t judge your choices at that moment that was the best choice that was meant for you

season of spring flowers

The months of Spring are about renewal, new beginnings, growth and rapid expansion. It is a time where we are drawn to spring clean, cleanse the home, start exercising and think about a lighter healthier diet. 

In Chinese Medicine the season Spring corresponds to the element wood and the related organs are the liver and gallbladder. The liver sharpens our creative visions, turns our aspirations into focus and the gallbladder goes about making the decisions and taking the steps to bring it into fruition. 

The wood element governs the emotional and intuitive body. When nourished we can be empowered and strong however when out of alignment you may feel as if you’re not in control of your emotions, or become very stressed. 

When the wood element is in balance we are clear in our decision making, we are flexible and we can deal with challenges easily. When the wood element is out of balance we start to experience frustration, irritability and anger. Liver stagnation can also lead to depression.

Spring is the time to:

  • Rise early and rest at night
  • Avoid drinking a lot of alcohol to help the liver
  • Drink lemon in water to help in detoxing the liver
  • Eat a light diet, it is recommended to minimise coffee and sugar 
  • Move, it’s time to wake up the body. This is the time to join an exercise or yoga class
  • Make changes to your daily routine 
  • Share your unique gifts with the world
  • Set new intentions, visions, projects and goals for the months ahead 
  • Take action – what do you want to do with your future & how can you make it happen?
  • Take risks and try something new
  • Declutter physically and emotionally – let go of anything that is weighing you down
  • Work through your emotions of anger, resentment and frustration
  • Embrace compassion, patience, acceptance, kindness and forgiveness 

Take a moment and set your intentions for Spring. What small change can you make in your life to bring yourself in alignment with the season on change? 

lemons into lemonade

Life is the way you make it.

You’ve heard the phrase “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”, but what does it exactly mean?

Lemons are sour, representing life’s challenges. In contrast lemonade is sweet and represents changing life challenges into something positive. When there are problems at hand, rather than focusing on the problem, one can find a solution. ⠀

Yes often easier said than done! ⠀

It’s easier to find solutions when you have control of your mind! When you are caught up in the past and in negativity, you can’t see a clear solution ahead. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Let go of thinking life is a struggle. 

I am a firm believer we have all the answers within to the questions we seek. You need to take some time out to dive deep and be willing to hear the answers you seek. 

Below is a list of reflection questions to help you gain clarity so you can find solutions to your problems. 

What do I need to see that I am avoiding? 

What needs to change? 

What do I need to change within myself? 

What are the possibilities here? 

What are the facts? What really happened? 

How do I move through this? 

Where do I want to be?

What is the practical action I need to take? Or could have taken? 

What lesson from this experience could I take with me into the future?

Through a process of reflection we are able to gain clarity. However sometimes we are so deep inside our problems that it takes more than just a journey inwards to help us find answers. We may need some guidance or help to make sense of our reflection.

Guidance can come in many different forms. It may be a spiritual mentor, use of natural essences, alternative therapies or healings. Whatever your preference or beliefs an extra hand can often help turn those lemons into lemonade.


Love is the miracle cure

loving ourselves works miracles in our lives

Louise Hay


The relationship we have with ourselves is paramount. It is the foundation for living a healthy, joyful life.


  • You accept yourself without judgment
  • You have true lasting peace, happiness and fulfilment in your life
  • You have a deep sense of trust and understanding of your life
  • Loneliness and isolation will disappear
  • You don’t mistreat yourself with food
  • Suddenly you will be surrounded by love, you will attract your hearts desires
  • You feel comfortable in your own skin
  • You can handle any situation with respect and dignity
  • You will radiate confidence
  • Your life just works
  • You stop searching outside of yourself

It is not the way we look outside that matters, it’s about how we feel inside. Beauty comes from within. You are so much more than a reflection of what you see in the mirror!


Through identifying our negative self beliefs, and investigating their roots, we can then begin to understand why we think the way we do and then implement actions to change those negative self beliefs.

If you believe that you are not lovable or not worthy of self love, take a moment to consider where these beliefs have come from.

Think about:

  • Where does your lovability come from?
  • How does your physical body affect your ability to love and give love?
  • Is it difficult for me to spend time with myself? If so, what do I fear?







Robert Holden



Now you have identified the root of your inability to allow yourself unconditional self love, try these suggestions to help you shift your perspective and re-write your self love story:

  1. When you wake up in the morning, give yourself three loving compliments
  2. Before you go to sleep think of three good things that you did today
  3. Accept all parts of yourself today – accept the thoughts you are having, the feelings you are feeling, and all the behaviours and actions you are playing out
  4. Keep your vibration high, when your vibration is high you will feel good about yourself and your life. What’s happening on the inner is happening in your external life.
  5. Watch your thoughts, replace negative thoughts with positive ones
  6. Each day in the mirror say to yourself “I love and accept myself exactly as I am”
  7. Journal daily to become aware of your thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. When you have the awareness, you can start making changes
  8. Learn to have compassion and forgiveness for yourself
  9. Work with the mantra “I love my body’” and act as if it is a reality
  10. See yourself as your perfect weight now!
  11. It’s a problem when we give in to the world of outside opinions and appearances, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. It’s your opinion of you is what matters. Accept yourself now as you are

T H E  S E A S O N  O F  W I N T E R – A  T I M E  F O R  R E S T  A N D  R E S T O R A T I O N

Element: Water – the most yin of all the five elements

Yin Organ: Kidneys

Yang Partner Organ: Bladder

Emotion: Fear

Tissues: Bones

Sensory Organ: Ears


T H E  K I D N E Y S

Our kidneys are in Chinese Medicine the most important organ of your body. The kidneys are the source of all energy or “Qi” in the body.

Physical imbalances in the body can show up as

  • Premature ageing and greying of hair
  • Urination problems such as cystitis
  • Prostrate disorders in males
  • Kidney stones
  • Dark bags under the eyes
  • Craving salty foods
  • Fluid retention, bloating and oedema
  • Lymphatic congestion
  • Lower back pain
  • Weak and brittle bones
  • Aversion to cold
  • Lethargy
  • Poor short term memory
  • Problems with knees

Emotional imbalances can portray as

  • Fear
  • Anxiety and panic attacks
  • Intense phobias
  • Lack of perception
  • Lack of will power
  • Being timid and weak
  • Learning difficulties
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Apprehension
  • Fear of failure
  • Depression
  • Complaining
  • Suspicious and paranoid behaviour
  • Workaholism

Inna Segal describes kidney imbalances as “Living with guilt, resentment, blame, ancient sadness. Holding onto destructive beliefs and memories from the past. Suffering, with a limited short term memory, because all your attention is stuck in the past. Experiencing tiredness, depression, deadness, paralysing fear. Focusing on the negative aspects of life, unable to trust, difficulty in dealing with challenges situations. Crumbling under pressure. Giving up.


S U P P O R T I N G  T H E  W A T E R  E L E M E N T

  • Introduce warm foods and drinks into your diet as the ‘cold’ aggravates the water element
  • Avoid too much salt in your diet
  • Ensure you are drinking enough water – preferably warm
  • Watch for prolonged stress levels
  • Take time to replenish your resources, to take time to slow down
  • Go inward, self reflect and have quiet time. Writing, meditation, reading and other soul nurturing activities are required at this time. Winter is NOT the time for strenuous exercise!
  • Go to bed earlier and get up later
  • Nourish your body with warm foods and drink
  • Essential Oils: Cedarwood, Juniper, Fennel and Thyme just to name a few
  • Flower Essences: Bach Flowers: Aspen, Mimulis, Olive, Rock Rose and Star of Bethlehem
  • Flower Essences: Bush Flowers: Water and Gaia essence
  • Affirmations: “Kidneys: I seek only good everywhere. Right action is taking place. I am fulfilled. Bladder: I release the old and welcome the new.” Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life


I wrote the enclosed article for my clients in my program A Weight Off My Mind. I am sharing it with you as it seems to be a place so many of my clients find themselves in.


The Void” is referred to a time when we are in a period of change. This is a time where you have started to be aware of wanting a life of purpose and meaning, you are questioning why you are here and what are you meant to be doing with your life. This is a time to let go of the outcome, trusting it will turn out the best way possible. I hope you enjoy the blog post below.


T H E  V O I D 

The Void is a state of consciousness you can go into to expand beyond your current limits, let go of old things, and move to your next level of expansion. 

The Void occurs when you are letting go of an aspect of your personality self that no longer fits who you are becoming. In this state you can receive insights and do much inner work. It can last for hours, days or even months. You will experience the void throughout your spirituality journey. –
Sanaya Roman

Perhaps at this time you feel like your whole life has been tipped upside down. You’ve known change was coming, however this new awareness of a great reality at times has created more confusion and lack of clarity than before.

Some days you have enthusiastic motivation where you surge through full of energy, other days you feel tired, frustrated and totally over it. Somewhere along this way you forgot life was meant to be fun.


When going through any type of transformation, what needs to be cleared and released will come to the surface. What was hidden is now being exposed.

You will start asking yourself “who am I?”, “what would I love to do with my life?”, “what’s my purpose?”. You question where you fit in. This is a period of time of not knowing.

Things may get messy for a while as you start expanding beyond your old pattering but eventually things balance out and change starts to happen within and around you.

C H A N G E S  T H A T  M A Y  B E  O C C U R R I N G

  • You realise there is so much more to know about yourself
  • Strong foundations in your life are starting to fall away and your life is changing at a rapid pace
  • You feel like something is happening however you can’t see it yet
  • You feel less social than normal
  • You feel lonely even when surrounded by others
  • You crave time alone
  • Your physical body is needing more sleep or in contrast you feel more energised
  • You are in a state of confusion about your life
  • Your moods are all over the place
  • There is change in your thinking and you have noticed you are thinking in new ways. Somedays you can’t think clearly at all or you are noticing you have become forgetful
  • Making decisions and having clarity has become harder
  • You experience great clarity and receive new insights
  • You start re-examining your life, relationships, beliefs and values

M O V I N G  T H R O U G H  T H E  V O I D

How can you move through this period with more ease and grace?

  • Allow your intuition to be your navigator. When you listen to your inner wisdom, follow your heart and speak your truth, you will be lead to the opportunities and life that is in alignment for you.
  • This is a time to enter into a state of stillness and silence. Silencing the mind is essential! Spend a few minutes daily in silence
  • Let go of all your old preconceived ideas of how your life should be and allow yourself to open up to new choices
  • Make your inner work a priority
  • Be kind and compassionate to yourself
  • Take action when new opportunities start appearing in your life
  • Surrender to the new probable futures
  • Learn to embrace change and uncertainty
  • Visualise everything you want
  • Let go of what other people have told you that you should or shouldn’t be. Have a strong foundation of finding out who you are and letting go of who you think you are.

This is an exciting time of change and transformation!

Do you feel like you are living and breathing your purpose in life? If not, then you need to learn about living your Dharma!

Dharma is a Sanskrit word that is used to describe your purpose in life, and how to live your truth. If something doesn’t feel right anymore, be it a friendship, a job, a hobby, your health or spiritual wellness, then tuning into the Dharma teachings will help you feel contented and balanced again.

Deepak Chopra believes that everyone has a unique purpose in life and your dharma will continually evolve over your lifetime.

According to Deepak Chopra your dharma has 3 components: 

  1. To discover your true self
  2. The expression of your unique talents
  3. Sharing your gifts in a way that helps others

Unless you are being true to yourself and performing your dharma, even if it is imperfect, genuine contentment and happiness is often not found.

Signs that you may not be in balance with living your Dharma may include:

  1. Things that you found once enjoyable don’t appeal anymore
  2. You feel like you’ve outgrown your life
  3. It’s definitely not a comfortable feeling, you feel discontented, restless and may experience unhappiness
  4. You question all you once knew

When it’s time for change you will know it. You just know deep at your core that things can’t go back to how things were. You may push it down and try and avoid it, but know that it will sneak back up again, sometimes in more profound ways until you take inspired awareness and action.

Trust what is happening, even if you don’t understand it and it’s painful to the core. Every time you try and control the outcome, you are increasing your expectations how you want things to turn out. We all like to know the ending, but that does not allow us to enjoy the journey and transitions we experience along the way. How many times have you shut yourself down before things have even started? Allow yourself to experience feeling comfortable with the process of surrender and flow.

Using Dharma to help you through uncertain times

Get real with yourself. What areas in your life are and aren’t working? Where is the momentum and flow? Get honest, frank and raw as you need to be.

Face your fears. Are you avoiding the change? Identify your fears and recognise how you act them out in your daily life. How do you shut yourself down or let things pass you by due to fear?

Acceptance. Deal with what’s happening. Learn to sit with the discomfort, accept that this is where you need to be at this time.

Trust. Trust your life is becoming what it is destined to be and that everything will be ok. Now is the time to release your control!

Embrace the change. Leave behind what you found familiar and get excited for what is yet to come. Allow yourself to see the bigger picture from above.

Emotional imbalance. What negative emotions and beliefs do you need to deal with that have been suppressed? Allow yourself to sit with what you are feeling, no matter how uncomfortable it is.

Let go of expectations. Learn to be in the present moment – your power is in the present. It is in the present moment that you will have clarity and inspiration.

Courage. Find the courage to not try and change the situation, but to be ok about being in it.

Flow. When we drop into the momentum of flow our wellbeing, creativity and productivity is boosted.

Find your joy. When you make joy your main priority everything else will flow. How can you find joy in every moment?

Timing. Notice when the timing is right. You will know it in your heart.

Your unique abilities. Look at your unique abilities. Ask yourself how can I bring this gift more into my life?

Aligning to your inner knowing. Listen to your heart not your head!

Take inspired action. What choices and small changes can I make today for a better future? Ask yourself “Where do I need to start?”. Pour your heart and soul into the outcome you are desiring.

It may take years to look back and see the gifts this turbulent time gave you, but it will be worth it to know that you have been living your dharma!

December is a month of intense polarities. There is the festive cheer, Christmas parties, the warmer days and long summer nights. In contrast this time can send us into panic and overwhelm as we push ourselves to the limit.  It might seem like everyone ‘wants a piece of you’ and everything feels like a race.

This can be an intense time emotionally as old family triggers, hurts and wounds come to the surface as many face seeing their families for Christmas.

Turn the feelings of depletion and overwhelm by following these simple ideas. You will feel restored, nourished and rejuvenated and be able to head into the festive season with a renewed sense of confidence.

Wake up on a high:

How we start the day sets us up for the day! Before the negative thoughts enter the mind of all the to-do’s of the day ahead STOP take a breath and have gratitude for all the amazing things you have in your life. Start the day expecting all good things coming your way and focus on all the things you have right here and now.

Set the intention the night before to wake up with these positive thoughts. Do NOT get out of bed until you have happy positive thoughts.

Stay centred throughmindfulness and meditation:

Make meditation part of your morning routine. You will find that it sets you up positively for the day. It doesn’t have to be a long meditation. In my recent newsletter I shared how I start my day by listening to the Daily calm app which is a ten minute meditation, then work through to others.

Morning pages:

Morning pages are a powerful tool from the book The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. The process is sitting with a journal and writing three pages allowing the words you are writing to flow.  Keep writing without stopping until you have completed your three pages. Sometimes you may feel like you have nothing to write, the key is to not overthink the process but to flow with your writing. This is an amazing way to clear clutter from your mind. You will find that amazing insights will start to emerge.


Reset your nervous system with this Kundalini Kriya

Here is a simple yoga pose of legs up the wall for instant calming

Find time to exercise:

Finding time in your busy December schedule to exercise can be difficult. Sometimes it feels as though there are not enough hours in the day to fit in a good workout. The benefits of even a short work out is worth paying attention to – mental clarity and focus and positive mindset. A short walk around the block can do wonders!

Change your self talk: 

Buddha once said “ Since everything is a reflection of our minds, everything can be changed by our minds”. Our repetitive negative thought patterns can quickly become habits and in turn, beliefs.

Upon noticing the negative thoughts quickly change through a process of delay and distract  which is a simple as distracting yourself. Put on some music, go for a walk, meditate, journal, anything to distract the mind.

Focus on one thing:

Rather than overwhelm yourself with the endless list of things to do, tackle one thing at a time. Once that one thing is done only then move onto the next thing

Healing Natural Medicine: 

This is a time when we need to ensure we are taking our drops to bring balance and harmony. A few examples are

  • No More Worries – my absolute favourite drops! Taking No More Worries is like lifting the veil of burdens from your shoulders
  • A few of my favourites from the Australian Bush Flower Essences 
  • Paw Paw for overwhelm
  • Sundew for grounding and centring
  • Calm and Clear to calm and clear your mind
  • Emergency Essence when you need that stronger boost to bring about calm

All of these are available in the clinic.

Listen to your heart:

The heart is the most powerful tonic to clear confusion. When you listen to your heart, you know what feels true for you in this moment. Makes choices from what I do feel about this rather than what do I think about this

Learning to let go of the need to be perfect: 

Stop beating yourself up over everything. Refrain from punishing yourself for what you eat, haven’t done or your guilty thoughts. Release judgment on yourself and work with the new belief “I am enough”. Accept yourself for who you are not who you should, or will be.

Commit to what really matters to you:

Are you over committing? Doing all the things you think you should be doing? Is this based on what seems to matter to everyone else – rather than committing what really matters to you? How can you start committing to things that bring you joy and energy rather than heartache?


Our boundaries can definitely be triggered this time of year. Having awareness around your boundary setting is essential this time of year.

Self care and quiet time: 

Give yourself the luxury of quiet time. Take yourself off for a nap or meditate when needed and ensure you get a decent night’s sleep each night. Remember to fill up your cup so you can allow the overflow to others.

Wholesome food:

An obvious answer, right? Yes, it is hard to do with all the Christmas parties, limited time for cooking healthy meals as we rush through the door. Simple things such as removing unhealthy food from the house, consciously make healthy choices, and noticing why you are eating can all help. Think about whether you are eating because I’m feeling emotional, needing energy or am I eating for something to do?

Take a technology break

Technology can eat up so much of our time. Cut back on screen time and social media. Being constantly connected is feeding the fuel to the fire of overwhelm.

Above all this Christmas, do what is right for you. It is much easier to deal with the challenges of the season when you feel centred, calm and in control.