lemons into lemonade

Life is the way you make it.

You’ve heard the phrase “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade”, but what does it exactly mean?

Lemons are sour, representing life’s challenges. In contrast lemonade is sweet and represents changing life challenges into something positive. When there are problems at hand, rather than focusing on the problem, one can find a solution. ⠀

Yes often easier said than done! ⠀

It’s easier to find solutions when you have control of your mind! When you are caught up in the past and in negativity, you can’t see a clear solution ahead. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Let go of thinking life is a struggle. 

I am a firm believer we have all the answers within to the questions we seek. You need to take some time out to dive deep and be willing to hear the answers you seek. 

Below is a list of reflection questions to help you gain clarity so you can find solutions to your problems. 

What do I need to see that I am avoiding? 

What needs to change? 

What do I need to change within myself? 

What are the possibilities here? 

What are the facts? What really happened? 

How do I move through this? 

Where do I want to be?

What is the practical action I need to take? Or could have taken? 

What lesson from this experience could I take with me into the future?

Through a process of reflection we are able to gain clarity. However sometimes we are so deep inside our problems that it takes more than just a journey inwards to help us find answers. We may need some guidance or help to make sense of our reflection.

Guidance can come in many different forms. It may be a spiritual mentor, use of natural essences, alternative therapies or healings. Whatever your preference or beliefs an extra hand can often help turn those lemons into lemonade.


Love is the miracle cure

loving ourselves works miracles in our lives

Louise Hay


The relationship we have with ourselves is paramount. It is the foundation for living a healthy, joyful life.


  • You accept yourself without judgment
  • You have true lasting peace, happiness and fulfilment in your life
  • You have a deep sense of trust and understanding of your life
  • Loneliness and isolation will disappear
  • You don’t mistreat yourself with food
  • Suddenly you will be surrounded by love, you will attract your hearts desires
  • You feel comfortable in your own skin
  • You can handle any situation with respect and dignity
  • You will radiate confidence
  • Your life just works
  • You stop searching outside of yourself

It is not the way we look outside that matters, it’s about how we feel inside. Beauty comes from within. You are so much more than a reflection of what you see in the mirror!


Through identifying our negative self beliefs, and investigating their roots, we can then begin to understand why we think the way we do and then implement actions to change those negative self beliefs.

If you believe that you are not lovable or not worthy of self love, take a moment to consider where these beliefs have come from.

Think about:

  • Where does your lovability come from?
  • How does your physical body affect your ability to love and give love?
  • Is it difficult for me to spend time with myself? If so, what do I fear?







Robert Holden



Now you have identified the root of your inability to allow yourself unconditional self love, try these suggestions to help you shift your perspective and re-write your self love story:

  1. When you wake up in the morning, give yourself three loving compliments
  2. Before you go to sleep think of three good things that you did today
  3. Accept all parts of yourself today – accept the thoughts you are having, the feelings you are feeling, and all the behaviours and actions you are playing out
  4. Keep your vibration high, when your vibration is high you will feel good about yourself and your life. What’s happening on the inner is happening in your external life.
  5. Watch your thoughts, replace negative thoughts with positive ones
  6. Each day in the mirror say to yourself “I love and accept myself exactly as I am”
  7. Journal daily to become aware of your thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. When you have the awareness, you can start making changes
  8. Learn to have compassion and forgiveness for yourself
  9. Work with the mantra “I love my body’” and act as if it is a reality
  10. See yourself as your perfect weight now!
  11. It’s a problem when we give in to the world of outside opinions and appearances, it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks. It’s your opinion of you is what matters. Accept yourself now as you are

T H E  S E A S O N  O F  W I N T E R – A  T I M E  F O R  R E S T  A N D  R E S T O R A T I O N

Element: Water – the most yin of all the five elements

Yin Organ: Kidneys

Yang Partner Organ: Bladder

Emotion: Fear

Tissues: Bones

Sensory Organ: Ears


T H E  K I D N E Y S

Our kidneys are in Chinese Medicine the most important organ of your body. The kidneys are the source of all energy or “Qi” in the body.

Physical imbalances in the body can show up as

  • Premature ageing and greying of hair
  • Urination problems such as cystitis
  • Prostrate disorders in males
  • Kidney stones
  • Dark bags under the eyes
  • Craving salty foods
  • Fluid retention, bloating and oedema
  • Lymphatic congestion
  • Lower back pain
  • Weak and brittle bones
  • Aversion to cold
  • Lethargy
  • Poor short term memory
  • Problems with knees

Emotional imbalances can portray as

  • Fear
  • Anxiety and panic attacks
  • Intense phobias
  • Lack of perception
  • Lack of will power
  • Being timid and weak
  • Learning difficulties
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Apprehension
  • Fear of failure
  • Depression
  • Complaining
  • Suspicious and paranoid behaviour
  • Workaholism

Inna Segal describes kidney imbalances as “Living with guilt, resentment, blame, ancient sadness. Holding onto destructive beliefs and memories from the past. Suffering, with a limited short term memory, because all your attention is stuck in the past. Experiencing tiredness, depression, deadness, paralysing fear. Focusing on the negative aspects of life, unable to trust, difficulty in dealing with challenges situations. Crumbling under pressure. Giving up.


S U P P O R T I N G  T H E  W A T E R  E L E M E N T

  • Introduce warm foods and drinks into your diet as the ‘cold’ aggravates the water element
  • Avoid too much salt in your diet
  • Ensure you are drinking enough water – preferably warm
  • Watch for prolonged stress levels
  • Take time to replenish your resources, to take time to slow down
  • Go inward, self reflect and have quiet time. Writing, meditation, reading and other soul nurturing activities are required at this time. Winter is NOT the time for strenuous exercise!
  • Go to bed earlier and get up later
  • Nourish your body with warm foods and drink
  • Essential Oils: Cedarwood, Juniper, Fennel and Thyme just to name a few
  • Flower Essences: Bach Flowers: Aspen, Mimulis, Olive, Rock Rose and Star of Bethlehem
  • Flower Essences: Bush Flowers: Water and Gaia essence
  • Affirmations: “Kidneys: I seek only good everywhere. Right action is taking place. I am fulfilled. Bladder: I release the old and welcome the new.” Louise L. Hay, You Can Heal Your Life


I wrote the enclosed article for my clients in my program A Weight Off My Mind. I am sharing it with you as it seems to be a place so many of my clients find themselves in.


The Void” is referred to a time when we are in a period of change. This is a time where you have started to be aware of wanting a life of purpose and meaning, you are questioning why you are here and what are you meant to be doing with your life. This is a time to let go of the outcome, trusting it will turn out the best way possible. I hope you enjoy the blog post below.


T H E  V O I D 

The Void is a state of consciousness you can go into to expand beyond your current limits, let go of old things, and move to your next level of expansion. 

The Void occurs when you are letting go of an aspect of your personality self that no longer fits who you are becoming. In this state you can receive insights and do much inner work. It can last for hours, days or even months. You will experience the void throughout your spirituality journey. –
Sanaya Roman

Perhaps at this time you feel like your whole life has been tipped upside down. You’ve known change was coming, however this new awareness of a great reality at times has created more confusion and lack of clarity than before.

Some days you have enthusiastic motivation where you surge through full of energy, other days you feel tired, frustrated and totally over it. Somewhere along this way you forgot life was meant to be fun.


When going through any type of transformation, what needs to be cleared and released will come to the surface. What was hidden is now being exposed.

You will start asking yourself “who am I?”, “what would I love to do with my life?”, “what’s my purpose?”. You question where you fit in. This is a period of time of not knowing.

Things may get messy for a while as you start expanding beyond your old pattering but eventually things balance out and change starts to happen within and around you.

C H A N G E S  T H A T  M A Y  B E  O C C U R R I N G

  • You realise there is so much more to know about yourself
  • Strong foundations in your life are starting to fall away and your life is changing at a rapid pace
  • You feel like something is happening however you can’t see it yet
  • You feel less social than normal
  • You feel lonely even when surrounded by others
  • You crave time alone
  • Your physical body is needing more sleep or in contrast you feel more energised
  • You are in a state of confusion about your life
  • Your moods are all over the place
  • There is change in your thinking and you have noticed you are thinking in new ways. Somedays you can’t think clearly at all or you are noticing you have become forgetful
  • Making decisions and having clarity has become harder
  • You experience great clarity and receive new insights
  • You start re-examining your life, relationships, beliefs and values

M O V I N G  T H R O U G H  T H E  V O I D

How can you move through this period with more ease and grace?

  • Allow your intuition to be your navigator. When you listen to your inner wisdom, follow your heart and speak your truth, you will be lead to the opportunities and life that is in alignment for you.
  • This is a time to enter into a state of stillness and silence. Silencing the mind is essential! Spend a few minutes daily in silence
  • Let go of all your old preconceived ideas of how your life should be and allow yourself to open up to new choices
  • Make your inner work a priority
  • Be kind and compassionate to yourself
  • Take action when new opportunities start appearing in your life
  • Surrender to the new probable futures
  • Learn to embrace change and uncertainty
  • Visualise everything you want
  • Let go of what other people have told you that you should or shouldn’t be. Have a strong foundation of finding out who you are and letting go of who you think you are.

This is an exciting time of change and transformation!

Do you feel like you are living and breathing your purpose in life? If not, then you need to learn about living your Dharma!

Dharma is a Sanskrit word that is used to describe your purpose in life, and how to live your truth. If something doesn’t feel right anymore, be it a friendship, a job, a hobby, your health or spiritual wellness, then tuning into the Dharma teachings will help you feel contented and balanced again.

Deepak Chopra believes that everyone has a unique purpose in life and your dharma will continually evolve over your lifetime.

According to Deepak Chopra your dharma has 3 components: 

  1. To discover your true self
  2. The expression of your unique talents
  3. Sharing your gifts in a way that helps others

Unless you are being true to yourself and performing your dharma, even if it is imperfect, genuine contentment and happiness is often not found.

Signs that you may not be in balance with living your Dharma may include:

  1. Things that you found once enjoyable don’t appeal anymore
  2. You feel like you’ve outgrown your life
  3. It’s definitely not a comfortable feeling, you feel discontented, restless and may experience unhappiness
  4. You question all you once knew

When it’s time for change you will know it. You just know deep at your core that things can’t go back to how things were. You may push it down and try and avoid it, but know that it will sneak back up again, sometimes in more profound ways until you take inspired awareness and action.

Trust what is happening, even if you don’t understand it and it’s painful to the core. Every time you try and control the outcome, you are increasing your expectations how you want things to turn out. We all like to know the ending, but that does not allow us to enjoy the journey and transitions we experience along the way. How many times have you shut yourself down before things have even started? Allow yourself to experience feeling comfortable with the process of surrender and flow.

Using Dharma to help you through uncertain times

Get real with yourself. What areas in your life are and aren’t working? Where is the momentum and flow? Get honest, frank and raw as you need to be.

Face your fears. Are you avoiding the change? Identify your fears and recognise how you act them out in your daily life. How do you shut yourself down or let things pass you by due to fear?

Acceptance. Deal with what’s happening. Learn to sit with the discomfort, accept that this is where you need to be at this time.

Trust. Trust your life is becoming what it is destined to be and that everything will be ok. Now is the time to release your control!

Embrace the change. Leave behind what you found familiar and get excited for what is yet to come. Allow yourself to see the bigger picture from above.

Emotional imbalance. What negative emotions and beliefs do you need to deal with that have been suppressed? Allow yourself to sit with what you are feeling, no matter how uncomfortable it is.

Let go of expectations. Learn to be in the present moment – your power is in the present. It is in the present moment that you will have clarity and inspiration.

Courage. Find the courage to not try and change the situation, but to be ok about being in it.

Flow. When we drop into the momentum of flow our wellbeing, creativity and productivity is boosted.

Find your joy. When you make joy your main priority everything else will flow. How can you find joy in every moment?

Timing. Notice when the timing is right. You will know it in your heart.

Your unique abilities. Look at your unique abilities. Ask yourself how can I bring this gift more into my life?

Aligning to your inner knowing. Listen to your heart not your head!

Take inspired action. What choices and small changes can I make today for a better future? Ask yourself “Where do I need to start?”. Pour your heart and soul into the outcome you are desiring.

It may take years to look back and see the gifts this turbulent time gave you, but it will be worth it to know that you have been living your dharma!

December is a month of intense polarities. There is the festive cheer, Christmas parties, the warmer days and long summer nights. In contrast this time can send us into panic and overwhelm as we push ourselves to the limit.  It might seem like everyone ‘wants a piece of you’ and everything feels like a race.

This can be an intense time emotionally as old family triggers, hurts and wounds come to the surface as many face seeing their families for Christmas.

Turn the feelings of depletion and overwhelm by following these simple ideas. You will feel restored, nourished and rejuvenated and be able to head into the festive season with a renewed sense of confidence.

Wake up on a high:

How we start the day sets us up for the day! Before the negative thoughts enter the mind of all the to-do’s of the day ahead STOP take a breath and have gratitude for all the amazing things you have in your life. Start the day expecting all good things coming your way and focus on all the things you have right here and now.

Set the intention the night before to wake up with these positive thoughts. Do NOT get out of bed until you have happy positive thoughts.

Stay centred throughmindfulness and meditation:

Make meditation part of your morning routine. You will find that it sets you up positively for the day. It doesn’t have to be a long meditation. In my recent newsletter I shared how I start my day by listening to the Daily calm app which is a ten minute meditation, then work through to others.

Morning pages:

Morning pages are a powerful tool from the book The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. The process is sitting with a journal and writing three pages allowing the words you are writing to flow.  Keep writing without stopping until you have completed your three pages. Sometimes you may feel like you have nothing to write, the key is to not overthink the process but to flow with your writing. This is an amazing way to clear clutter from your mind. You will find that amazing insights will start to emerge.


Reset your nervous system with this Kundalini Kriya https://youtu.be/gK118KEGWKc

Here is a simple yoga pose of legs up the wall for instant calming https://www.doyouyoga.com/6-benefits-of-legs-up-the-wall-pose-48440/

Find time to exercise:

Finding time in your busy December schedule to exercise can be difficult. Sometimes it feels as though there are not enough hours in the day to fit in a good workout. The benefits of even a short work out is worth paying attention to – mental clarity and focus and positive mindset. A short walk around the block can do wonders!

Change your self talk: 

Buddha once said “ Since everything is a reflection of our minds, everything can be changed by our minds”. Our repetitive negative thought patterns can quickly become habits and in turn, beliefs.

Upon noticing the negative thoughts quickly change through a process of delay and distract  which is a simple as distracting yourself. Put on some music, go for a walk, meditate, journal, anything to distract the mind.

Focus on one thing:

Rather than overwhelm yourself with the endless list of things to do, tackle one thing at a time. Once that one thing is done only then move onto the next thing

Healing Natural Medicine: 

This is a time when we need to ensure we are taking our drops to bring balance and harmony. A few examples are

  • No More Worries – my absolute favourite drops! Taking No More Worries is like lifting the veil of burdens from your shoulders
  • A few of my favourites from the Australian Bush Flower Essences 
  • Paw Paw for overwhelm
  • Sundew for grounding and centring
  • Calm and Clear to calm and clear your mind
  • Emergency Essence when you need that stronger boost to bring about calm

All of these are available in the clinic.

Listen to your heart:

The heart is the most powerful tonic to clear confusion. When you listen to your heart, you know what feels true for you in this moment. Makes choices from what I do feel about this rather than what do I think about this

Learning to let go of the need to be perfect: 

Stop beating yourself up over everything. Refrain from punishing yourself for what you eat, haven’t done or your guilty thoughts. Release judgment on yourself and work with the new belief “I am enough”. Accept yourself for who you are not who you should, or will be.

Commit to what really matters to you:

Are you over committing? Doing all the things you think you should be doing? Is this based on what seems to matter to everyone else – rather than committing what really matters to you? How can you start committing to things that bring you joy and energy rather than heartache?


Our boundaries can definitely be triggered this time of year. Having awareness around your boundary setting is essential this time of year.

Self care and quiet time: 

Give yourself the luxury of quiet time. Take yourself off for a nap or meditate when needed and ensure you get a decent night’s sleep each night. Remember to fill up your cup so you can allow the overflow to others.

Wholesome food:

An obvious answer, right? Yes, it is hard to do with all the Christmas parties, limited time for cooking healthy meals as we rush through the door. Simple things such as removing unhealthy food from the house, consciously make healthy choices, and noticing why you are eating can all help. Think about whether you are eating because I’m feeling emotional, needing energy or am I eating for something to do?

Take a technology break

Technology can eat up so much of our time. Cut back on screen time and social media. Being constantly connected is feeding the fuel to the fire of overwhelm.

Above all this Christmas, do what is right for you. It is much easier to deal with the challenges of the season when you feel centred, calm and in control.

“How you wake up each day and your morning routine dramatically effects your level of success in every single area of your life. Focused, productive, successful mornings generate focused, productive, successful days. By simply changing the way you wake up in the morning, you can transform any area of your life, faster than you thought possible”.  Hal Erod

Little did I know that this small book “The Miracle Morning” could have such a positive impact on my life. If you are looking at improving your life The Miracle Morning is a game changer! The Miracle Morning is a morning routine based on 6 steps to dramatically affect the level of success you have in every area of your life. You simply wake up earlier than you normally would (typically 30-60mins earlier) so you have time to dedicate to improving yourself in order to transform your life.

For the last three weeks I have been implementing the strategies writer Hal Elrod advocates. Amazingly I have found during this time I have more energy, not only in the mornings but throughout the day. I am also sleeping better and am so much more productive throughout the day. The biggest change and satisfaction for me however is the time for my personal development. I now have time for meditation, reading and writing before my morning walk. All of this before my house has risen for the day! 

“I’m not a morning person you say?”, don’t worry I assure you things will change once you start implementing this into your daily routine. You will soon find how you spend the first hour of your day becomes the key to unlocking your full potential and creating the levels of success you desire. You will soon see that when you change the way you wake up in the morning, you change your entire life.”  Hal Erod 

Feeling like there is never time for the self is a common theme I see with clients. Implementing the strategies from the Miracle Morning allows that valuable time for the self and connection to the self, which allows you to tune in to your wants and needs. The change we want to see in our lives must start from within. So, start looking within through the six step process.

Some of the benefits you can expect to gain from the Miracle Morning:

·        Wake up each day with more energy, and empowerment to start living to your potential 

·        Lower your stress levels

·        Gain clarity to overcome challenges or limiting beliefs that have been holding you back

·        Improved health: lose weight or get into great physical shape

·        Experience more gratitude and less worry

·        Significantly increase your ability to earn and attract more monetary wealth

·        Uncover and begin living your life’s purpose

·        Stop settling for less than you truly desire and deserve and start living in alignment with your vision for the most extraordinary life you can imagine

·        The Miracle Morning is going to give you uninterrupted time each day to become the person you need to become and the person you need to be to improve any area of your life


The Life S.A.V.E.R.S: Six practices guaranteed to save you from a life of unfulfilled potential 

The Life S.A.V.E.R.S are six practices to help reach your full potential. These are personal development practices with the aim of helping you to find the forces within you that will help you change and transform your life.

Silence: Silence time can be spent meditating, time spent in prayer or deep thought or acknowledging all that your grateful for. 

 Affirmations: Affirmations are an effective tool for quickly becoming the person you need to be to achieve everything you want in your life. Actively design your affirmations to be in alignment with: 

·        What you are wanting to accomplish?

·        Why you want this?

·        Who do you have to be in order to make this happen?

·        What are you going to commit too to make this happen?


Repeat them daily and tap into your emotions whilst reading them.

Visualisation: Visualisation is the process of imagining exactly what you want to achieve or attain, and then mentally rehearsing what you’ll need to do to achieve or attain it. Using visualisation will program your subconscious mind for success.

Exercise: Morning exercise should be a staple in your daily ritual. Exercising in the morning boosts your energy levels, enables you to think better and concentrate longer for the day ahead. 

Reading: It is highly recommended to read personal development books. You should aim to read at least 10 pages, but you can set yourself a goal and stick to it. Re- reading past books is recommended as achieving mastery requires repetition. 

Scribing: Scribing or writing is the final practice. 5-10 minutes of journaling enables you to document your insights, ideas, breakthroughs, realisations, successes and lessons learned, as well as personal growth. 

I have spent the past three weeks doing one or more of these things each morning and the result has been profound. I encourage you to give it a go. What do you have to lose? Try it for a week you will be surprised at the positive change in energy and mindset.

People have always understood that intuitively the mind and body are one. In this understanding of body mind connection, it is shown that one can affect the other in many ways. If we believe and acknowledge this connection, then it can bring us amazing insights into how we can heal ourselves inside and out. This quest for truth can then promote transformation, bringing you back to wholeness.

Have you ever experienced back pain, extreme tiredness or other physical complexities? What do you think your body is trying to tell you in these circumstances? By stopping to acknowledge and accept these problems, you are taking the first step to nourishing and healing your entire being.

Listening to the wisdom of your body

Your body is constantly giving you messages about what is and isn’t working in your life. When life is off track it will let you know. Your body reveals what is happening in our external world, in our relationships, our jobs and how we live our lives. Your body will whisper to you through minor ailments. If you don’t pay attention it will get louder and the symptoms may become more chronic.
Paying attention and having awareness to the messages from within your body can literally save your life. However, for the body to give you a signal you must get out of your head and your thoughts and start paying attention to your feelings and your physical body. By bringing awareness to your symptoms in the body you can be guided to heal.

Making your health a priority

So how can you ensure that you don’t ignore your body’s signals? Your physical body is your temple so learn from its wisdom and you will heal more rapidly and avoid chronic problems and disease.

Pay attention to the messages within your body and be aware of your own energy.  What is it trying to say to me? Your body is a feedback system. Ask questions and go within, then see what’s happening in the body.

Unless we are connecting to the body regularly, we can’t change or begin to heal. True healing means listening to the messages your body is trying to give you, then making changes which create ease rather than dis-ease and flow rather than stuckness in your body and your life.

Identifying the issues

Do you rely on your body to say no for you when you can’t? How has this manifested itself in your life? Look at the occasions or situations that this has happened. Can you see a pattern? For example, what are reactions within your body telling you when:

  • interacting with a certain person
  • comparing yourself to others
  • your house isn’t as tidy as you would like
  • confronted with stressful situations
  • relationships with others are strained

Reactions, ailments or even pain triggered from these situations are telling you that it’s time to change something in your life! Perhaps it’s time to say ‘no’.

By tuning into your body regularly you will be able to more easily identify when you need to rest, socialise, work and need to have more fun. If you need help in identifying what your body is telling you or need more information on how to bring your life back into balance, leave your email address here for my monthly health and wellness updates.

Further reading:
When the Body Says No by Gabor Manor
The Secret Language of your body by Inna Segal

Fear is often seen as a negative emotion, however the positive aspects of fear can be one of the biggest motivators and driving forces in life. When we confront, accept and embrace fear it allows personal growth and change.

Marianne Williamson sums up the energy of fear nicely.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?”


  • Dominates and paralyses us – fear of failure keeps us stuck
  • Prevents us from trusting and achieving our goals
  • Creates set backs, it stops us from acting on things
  • Creates worry, stress and anxiety which can lead to depression
  • Creates vulnerability and separation
  • Creates a sense someone has power over us
  • Drains our energy
  • Makes us feel not good enough, smart enough or successful enough
  • Blocks us from empowerment

Fear keeps us safe and small and often a lot of our fears are imagined and not even real. Find the positives of fear and don’t aim to go around it or avoid it.

Fear can:

  • Help us search for truth
  • Help us to accept that we are heading down a new path
  • Help us step out of our comfort zone
  • Allow us to see something through a different point of view
  • Be a sign that you are ready to start a change that has been waiting for you

Techniques to help you rise above fear :

Recognise the fear: Pay attention to your thoughts, words and actions throughout the day. Whilst some fears may be easy to identify others may be harder to spot. Become the silent witness during the day. Observe yourself , observe your thoughts. Notice the types of thoughts you have on a consistent basis. Take time to identify your fears, then actively work towards dispelling them.

  • What am I afraid of?
  • What is the driving force behind my fear?
  • What is the root cause?
  • What triggers my fears?
  • Are my fears reasonable or unreasonable?
  • Are there any patterns in my fear?
  • What are the beliefs that are fuelling the fears?

Embrace the fear: Every emotion is a feeling and response to life, we are meant to feel them. When we accept our fears they have less of an effect over us.

A great process to do is : make a list on a piece of paper “Things I can control” and “ Things I can control” , now list all the things you can control and things you can’t control. Focus on what you can control and leave behind everything else.

Feel your way through it: Recognise where the fear is expressing itself in the body, take your awareness to this area and use your breath to breathe though the discomfort. Use a mantra/ affirmation during this process such as
“ I choose to see peace instead of this”. This will help calm and ease the mind.

Get your mind right: Choose to not to overthink things, the more relaxed your mind is the less fear will raise its ugly head. Try mindfulness, meditation, Emotional Freedom Technique, or Serenity Vibrational Healing technique to help quieten the mind to work through clearing old beliefs, traumas and negative thought patterns.

Learn to let go of the past: Its valuable to accept all that has happened in your past, every experience has been essential to your spiritual journey. Accepting the past allows you to be present here and now in this moment. When we live in the past we become stuck in repetitive behaviours and thoughts that no longer serve us.

Take baby steps to achieving your goals: Often we can become so overwhelmed and fearful we avoid taking any steps to our goals. The simplest way to overcome our fears is by taking one small step or action. Doing so on a regular basis primes our minds to do it in various situations.

Vibrational Medicine : Some well know Bach Flower remedies are
Mimulus: for known fears
Cherry Plum: for fear of letting go, fear of losing control, fear of having a breakdown, desperation
Aspen : for fear and anxiety of the unknown or unknown reason
Red Chestnut : for fear and over concern for the safety of others especially loved ones