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Do you feel like you are living and breathing your purpose in life? If not, then you need to learn about living your Dharma!

Dharma is a Sanskrit word that is used to describe your purpose in life, and how to live your truth. If something doesn’t feel right anymore, be it a friendship, a job, a hobby, your health or spiritual wellness, then tuning into the Dharma teachings will help you feel contented and balanced again.

Deepak Chopra believes that everyone has a unique purpose in life and your dharma will continually evolve over your lifetime.

According to Deepak Chopra your dharma has 3 components: 

  1. To discover your true self
  2. The expression of your unique talents
  3. Sharing your gifts in a way that helps others

Unless you are being true to yourself and performing your dharma, even if it is imperfect, genuine contentment and happiness is often not found.

Signs that you may not be in balance with living your Dharma may include:

  1. Things that you found once enjoyable don’t appeal anymore
  2. You feel like you’ve outgrown your life
  3. It’s definitely not a comfortable feeling, you feel discontented, restless and may experience unhappiness
  4. You question all you once knew

When it’s time for change you will know it. You just know deep at your core that things can’t go back to how things were. You may push it down and try and avoid it, but know that it will sneak back up again, sometimes in more profound ways until you take inspired awareness and action.

Trust what is happening, even if you don’t understand it and it’s painful to the core. Every time you try and control the outcome, you are increasing your expectations how you want things to turn out. We all like to know the ending, but that does not allow us to enjoy the journey and transitions we experience along the way. How many times have you shut yourself down before things have even started? Allow yourself to experience feeling comfortable with the process of surrender and flow.

Using Dharma to help you through uncertain times

Get real with yourself. What areas in your life are and aren’t working? Where is the momentum and flow? Get honest, frank and raw as you need to be.

Face your fears. Are you avoiding the change? Identify your fears and recognise how you act them out in your daily life. How do you shut yourself down or let things pass you by due to fear?

Acceptance. Deal with what’s happening. Learn to sit with the discomfort, accept that this is where you need to be at this time.

Trust. Trust your life is becoming what it is destined to be and that everything will be ok. Now is the time to release your control!

Embrace the change. Leave behind what you found familiar and get excited for what is yet to come. Allow yourself to see the bigger picture from above.

Emotional imbalance. What negative emotions and beliefs do you need to deal with that have been suppressed? Allow yourself to sit with what you are feeling, no matter how uncomfortable it is.

Let go of expectations. Learn to be in the present moment – your power is in the present. It is in the present moment that you will have clarity and inspiration.

Courage. Find the courage to not try and change the situation, but to be ok about being in it.

Flow. When we drop into the momentum of flow our wellbeing, creativity and productivity is boosted.

Find your joy. When you make joy your main priority everything else will flow. How can you find joy in every moment?

Timing. Notice when the timing is right. You will know it in your heart.

Your unique abilities. Look at your unique abilities. Ask yourself how can I bring this gift more into my life?

Aligning to your inner knowing. Listen to your heart not your head!

Take inspired action. What choices and small changes can I make today for a better future? Ask yourself “Where do I need to start?”. Pour your heart and soul into the outcome you are desiring.

It may take years to look back and see the gifts this turbulent time gave you, but it will be worth it to know that you have been living your dharma!

December is a month of intense polarities. There is the festive cheer, Christmas parties, the warmer days and long summer nights. In contrast this time can send us into panic and overwhelm as we push ourselves to the limit.  It might seem like everyone ‘wants a piece of you’ and everything feels like a race.

This can be an intense time emotionally as old family triggers, hurts and wounds come to the surface as many face seeing their families for Christmas.

Turn the feelings of depletion and overwhelm by following these simple ideas. You will feel restored, nourished and rejuvenated and be able to head into the festive season with a renewed sense of confidence.

Wake up on a high:

How we start the day sets us up for the day! Before the negative thoughts enter the mind of all the to-do’s of the day ahead STOP take a breath and have gratitude for all the amazing things you have in your life. Start the day expecting all good things coming your way and focus on all the things you have right here and now.

Set the intention the night before to wake up with these positive thoughts. Do NOT get out of bed until you have happy positive thoughts.

Stay centred throughmindfulness and meditation:

Make meditation part of your morning routine. You will find that it sets you up positively for the day. It doesn’t have to be a long meditation. In my recent newsletter I shared how I start my day by listening to the Daily calm app which is a ten minute meditation, then work through to others.

Morning pages:

Morning pages are a powerful tool from the book The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. The process is sitting with a journal and writing three pages allowing the words you are writing to flow.  Keep writing without stopping until you have completed your three pages. Sometimes you may feel like you have nothing to write, the key is to not overthink the process but to flow with your writing. This is an amazing way to clear clutter from your mind. You will find that amazing insights will start to emerge.

Yoga:

Reset your nervous system with this Kundalini Kriya https://youtu.be/gK118KEGWKc

Here is a simple yoga pose of legs up the wall for instant calming https://www.doyouyoga.com/6-benefits-of-legs-up-the-wall-pose-48440/

Find time to exercise:

Finding time in your busy December schedule to exercise can be difficult. Sometimes it feels as though there are not enough hours in the day to fit in a good workout. The benefits of even a short work out is worth paying attention to – mental clarity and focus and positive mindset. A short walk around the block can do wonders!

Change your self talk: 

Buddha once said “ Since everything is a reflection of our minds, everything can be changed by our minds”. Our repetitive negative thought patterns can quickly become habits and in turn, beliefs.

Upon noticing the negative thoughts quickly change through a process of delay and distract  which is a simple as distracting yourself. Put on some music, go for a walk, meditate, journal, anything to distract the mind.

Focus on one thing:

Rather than overwhelm yourself with the endless list of things to do, tackle one thing at a time. Once that one thing is done only then move onto the next thing

Healing Natural Medicine: 

This is a time when we need to ensure we are taking our drops to bring balance and harmony. A few examples are

  • No More Worries – my absolute favourite drops! Taking No More Worries is like lifting the veil of burdens from your shoulders
  • A few of my favourites from the Australian Bush Flower Essences 
  • Paw Paw for overwhelm
  • Sundew for grounding and centring
  • Calm and Clear to calm and clear your mind
  • Emergency Essence when you need that stronger boost to bring about calm

All of these are available in the clinic.

Listen to your heart:

The heart is the most powerful tonic to clear confusion. When you listen to your heart, you know what feels true for you in this moment. Makes choices from what I do feel about this rather than what do I think about this

Learning to let go of the need to be perfect: 

Stop beating yourself up over everything. Refrain from punishing yourself for what you eat, haven’t done or your guilty thoughts. Release judgment on yourself and work with the new belief “I am enough”. Accept yourself for who you are not who you should, or will be.

Commit to what really matters to you:

Are you over committing? Doing all the things you think you should be doing? Is this based on what seems to matter to everyone else – rather than committing what really matters to you? How can you start committing to things that bring you joy and energy rather than heartache?

Boundaries: 

Our boundaries can definitely be triggered this time of year. Having awareness around your boundary setting is essential this time of year.

Self care and quiet time: 

Give yourself the luxury of quiet time. Take yourself off for a nap or meditate when needed and ensure you get a decent night’s sleep each night. Remember to fill up your cup so you can allow the overflow to others.

Wholesome food:

An obvious answer, right? Yes, it is hard to do with all the Christmas parties, limited time for cooking healthy meals as we rush through the door. Simple things such as removing unhealthy food from the house, consciously make healthy choices, and noticing why you are eating can all help. Think about whether you are eating because I’m feeling emotional, needing energy or am I eating for something to do?

Take a technology break

Technology can eat up so much of our time. Cut back on screen time and social media. Being constantly connected is feeding the fuel to the fire of overwhelm.

Above all this Christmas, do what is right for you. It is much easier to deal with the challenges of the season when you feel centred, calm and in control.